“I was recently in a
church service where the message of the sermon was about the intergenerational
representation of congregations, and one of the points was that previous
generations need to realize that younger generations can’t be told stories the
same way the previous generations were told them. The language has changed. The
environment…the substrate upon which we now build has changed. Because of this,
the pastor added that previous generations needed to be willing to listen to
the stories and voices of the younger generations as well.
Now at some point in
the midst of this great message the children in the Sunday school class had
been taken outside to play in the grass with some balloons, and you could hear
their laughing and shrieks of joy and surprise outside the windows of the
sanctuary. What an appropriate backdrop for such a message!
And then it happened.
An older gentleman in
the congregation stood up, walked clear down the side aisle, opened the door to
the church yard and told the children that they needed to quiet down because a
service was taking place inside.
And in that moment
something in me broke. Some dark, black, gloomy hole within my being dropped
into endless freefall. During a message about generations needing to be willing
to listen to one another, some guy actually got up and told the younger members
of the church to shut up.
Any hope I had for
change died in that pew. Any hope I had for conversation, for renewal, for
cross-generational interaction choked to death center-aisle on the
cranberry-colored carpet runner and to the sound of the words: “You kids
need to quiet down.””
What you have just read is a quote from a June 5, 2012 post
on the Blog site Scriptorium http://grunewaldguild.com/blog/?p=1757.
This is the first time I have been to the site. I was moved to visit there
through a Facebook post by the Diocese of Eastern Tennessee. Their post coincides
with the upcoming national convention of the Episcopal Church, where among
other issues the diminishing census of our churches will be discussed.
I would like to touch on just one point the writer of the
blog alluded to. We are in fact in a
time that most of the information that we take in and put out is via some
electronic medium. Most of this information is only moderately relative to the
moment and even less relevant to our general ability to live in and cope with
our world. Church has become a thing that we do, rather than a part of the
essence of our being. It is those of us in the clergy who post or tweet about
things religious, not our congregants or the public in general, with the
exception of feel good platitudes and sayings or quotes of the day/week that
contain a Bible verse. It seems most of the time that we know a great deal
about each others daily routine and know almost nothing about the faith, needs,
wants, emotions, and impactful experiences of one another. We have forgotten
how to communicate.
“…one of the points
was that previous generations need to realize that younger generations can’t be
told stories the same way the previous generations were told them.”
The generations of story telling and storytellers have faded
away. I can remember when I was young; I could spend hours listening to my
grand parents, older relatives and neighbors, and even my parents telling
exciting and interesting stories of how things were in the past. There are two
reasons that this type of communication is nearly gone. We have run out of
storytellers in the older generation, it has become a lost art and we have no
listeners in the younger generation. Today’s young (I consider anyone between 2
and 60 young) don’t have time or are too distracted to sit and listen.
“Any hope I had for
change died in that pew. Any hope I had for conversation, for renewal, for
cross-generational interaction choked to death center-aisle on the
cranberry-colored carpet runner and to the sound of the words: “You kids
need to quiet down.””
I guess that I am just old enough to look at the dilemma
being presented as an opportunity rather than the death announcement of
inter-generational communication. I believe that we can resurrect (an
interesting term in a religious conversation) the art of communication in the
church, to the end that we are not running the younger generations away.
The chance lies in whether or not we, the Church, are
willing to make a very deliberate effort to create an environment conducive to effective
communication. This deliberate effort has to be designed to place the three or
four generations of congregants in contact with one another on a regular
basis. We must develop storytellers
willing to sit or stand before others and relate their stories. We must involve
the older folks in situations were they can observe and listen to the younger
members of the church. This could begin with developing young storytellers who
can do presentations during adult functions. You can take this model and mold
it and shape into hundreds of different applications and programs. All of this
must be framed in love, God’s abiding love, bathed in prayer, monitored with
patience, promoted and supported by the Rector (Pastor). There is not a short
term fix. It will be a longer, even lifetime, effort; it will be a change in
the lifestyle of the church.
The author of the blog says of himself and his peers: “Because
this is a generation of self-starters and micro-entrepreneurship. They have no
problem whatsoever starting up their own things. And they have been. And they
are. And they will continue to do so.” A key place to begin a process may very
well be within this very group of people. A focused effort must be made toward
this demographic to recruit their self-startedness, micro-entrepreneurship, and
energy to be a driving and integral force in the mechanism of transition back
to communications.
This is a good blog post, relevant to what is currently
going in the church in general and across denominational lines. I encourage you
to read the entire article, highlighting every thing that you see happening in
your church. Then I ask that you go back
and make a list of things you can do to begin the process. When you do begin,
start a blog or find an existing blog to post your ideas and programs. Let each
other know what works for you and doesn’t work. Learn from one another, have
seminars, and present homilies that support this new way of doing an old thing…
talking to each other. Blessings.
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