Tuesday, June 26, 2012

Courage


“I wanted you to see what real courage is, instead of getting the idea that courage is a man with a gun in his hand. It's when you know you're licked before you begin but you begin anyway and you see it through no matter what. You rarely win, but sometimes you do.”  ~Atticus Finch, Attorney in Harper Lee’s To Kill a Mockingbird

This is the longest story I have ever used in any of my Quotes of the Week. I believe that it is well worth the extra few minutes to read.  Blessings.

Forgotten Stories of Courage and Inspiration: Glenn Cunningham
By Leroy Watson Senior Writer, Bleacher Report on June 12, 2009

It was another bitterly cold morning in Everetts, Kan., a rural farming town like so many hundreds of communities throughout the American Midwest as the world was waging the Great War, World War I.
The residents in those small towns were not strangers to hard—often back-breaking—work, and from early childhood, they learned to value, even to love, hard work. Chores were doled out nearly as soon as a child could walk.
Such was the life of the Cunningham’s: father Clint was a water-well driller who moved his family around a lot in a struggle to keep them fed.
On Aug. 4, 1909, while living in Atlanta, Kan., Clint’s wife bore him a son, whom they named Glenn. By the time he was six, little Glenn was already working.
He and his nine-year old brother, Floyd, were assigned the onerous duty of walking almost two miles to the schoolhouse (that’s what they still called them back then, and many really were just abandoned houses that were converted to schools) to start the fire in the stove.
That way, the room would be warm by the time the teacher and other students arrived.
One cold morning in February of 1916, Floyd and Glenn arrived at the schoolhouse and unlocked the door, and were slapped in the face by the bitter cold wafting out of the still structure.
The two boys loaded the large, pot belly stove full of firewood, and took the kerosene can and soaked the logs thoroughly, as they always did. The kerosene accelerated the process of ignition, while also soaking into the logs enough to allow the flames to begin consuming the wood.
This morning, though, something went terribly wrong.
After letting the logs soak in the fluid for a bit, Floyd struck a match and dropped it into the pot belly stove. Almost instantaneously, the fire took on a life of its own. With a percussive “whoomp,” fire exploded everywhere, engulfing Floyd in a horrific sheet of flame.
Someone had mistakenly filled the kerosene container with gasoline.
Both of the boys were knocked to the ground by the mini-explosion, writhing in unspeakable pain. The flames quickly escaped the confines of the stove and violently swarmed throughout the front room of the schoolhouse.
On this day, their older sister Letha had accompanied them to school. She had been tending to other duties nearby, and heard the commotion coming from the schoolhouse. She saw the menacing flames and rushed to the front door, her horror growing by the moment.
She managed to open the door and coax her siblings out of the inferno. She ran for help; by the time she got back, Floyd was barely alive. He died shortly thereafter.
Little Glenn was mercifully unconscious for hours, as local doctors proclaimed him more dead than alive. His lower body had been ravaged by the flames.
He awoke in the local hospital, his legs swathed in bandages. The pain was unspeakable. He thought suddenly of his older brother, and tried to spring out of his bed to find him, but he could not move his legs.
He was crushed to learn that his brother had passed.
He was forced to stay in the hospital for weeks. His legs remained bandaged and lifeless. As he drifted in and out of consciousness, he overheard whispered conversations between his mother and doctors. First, they thought he would not survive. Later, they said he would never walk again, and urged amputation of both his legs.
His mother, mindful that her son had already lost his brother, refused to let him lose his legs, too.
When the bandages were finally removed and Glenn was sent home, it was easy to see why the doctors had been so pessimistic.
Glenn had lost all the toes on his left foot, and the transverse arch of the foot was ravaged. The flesh on his knees and shins had been eaten away by the flames. The right leg was grossly misshapen and was now a full two inches shorter than the left leg.
He still could not walk.
The doctors had done all they could. There was no such thing as transplants and skin grafts in those days nearly a century ago, and even if there had been, the Cunninghams were not likely candidates to afford the processes.
They sent him home with a wheelchair and crutches, advising the family to massage the legs to stretch the muscles and restore suppleness to his lower limbs.
Cunningham commented on the arduous regimen in his autobiography, American Miler: The Life and Times of Glenn Cunningham, by Paul J. Kiell.
“It hurt like mad,” Glenn said, “especially when my father stretched my legs...When my father would get tired I’d ask my mother to do the massaging and stretching and when she couldn’t do any more I’d start doing it myself.”
Glenn was determined to walk again, and endured the excruciating routine as a necessary evil.
One sunny day, during the summer of 1919, his mother wheeled him into the yard for fresh air, as was her custom. She went back inside. A few minutes later, she was astonished to see Glenn crawling on the ground!
She rushed outside, thinking something was wrong. By the time she had reached her son, Glenn had pulled himself across the grass and raised himself up on the picket fence.
He then proceeded to drag himself along the fence, stumbling as he tried to will his legs into functioning, determined that he would walk, all the while resisting his mother’s attempts to help.
He did this every day for weeks, until he had worn a path along the fence.
Slowly—over a period of months—Glenn’s legs began to function, to the astonishment of the doctors. After he began walking again, he made another discovery:
“It hurt like thunder to walk, but it didn't hurt at all when I ran. So for five or six years, about all I did was run.”
Well, he actually started doing something more akin to hopping fast than running. But before long, young Glenn Cunningham was known throughout the community for his running. Because he ran everywhere.
He once said, “I didn’t move 10 feet without breaking into a run. I ran and ran and ran.”
By the time he as 12, Glenn—running despite having legs that were still riddled with scars—was outrunning everyone in his age group in Elkhart, Kan., where his family had set down roots.
He went on to run track at Elkhart High School, becoming a miler. In his last schoolboy race, he set a national record, running the mile with a time of 4 minutes, 24.7 seconds
It is reputed that Cunningham ran a sub-four minute mile at Elkhart, but such outrageous rumors are unsubstantiated.
Cunningham took his incomparable determination and will to the University of Kansas in 1930, running for legendary track coach Brutus Hamilton, who himself had been a famed decathlete, winning a silver in the discipline at the 1920 Antwerp Games.
He sat out his freshman campaign, and in the 1931-32 season entered his first inter-collegiate competitions.
At the Big Six Meet that year in Lincoln, Neb., he set new conference records in the half mile (1:53.3), and the mile (4:14.3).
The following week, at the National Collegiate Meet in Chicago, he smashed the NCAA record in the mile, zipping to a time of 4:11.1.
No man had ever run the mile faster at an outdoor meet in the United States. Glenn Cunningham had arrived on the national scene, and it would be almost a decade before he would relinquish his place as the top middle-distance runner in the country.
1932 saw Cunningham win the NCAA 1,500 meter championship and earn a berth on the U.S. Olympic team. He placed fourth in the 1,500 meter race at Los Angeles, missing out on the medal podium by only a few meters.
In 1933, Cunningham graduated from Kansas with the highest academic marks in his class. That year, he won the AAU 800 meters in a time of 1:51.8; the AAU 1,500 meters with a time of 3:52.3; and the won the NCAA mile once more, with a time of 4:09.8.
He was rewarded with the 1933 Sullivan Memorial Award as the outstanding amateur athlete in America.
In the summer of 1933, he was captain of the American track team touring Europe. After running 20 events that summer, Cunningham was given the moniker of “The Kansas Ironman.”
1934 was the dawn of a new rivalry between Glenn Cunningham and Princeton’s Bill Bronthron.
Cunningham unveiled a brand new strategy: running the second half of the race faster than the first half.
On June 16, 1934, at the first Princeton Invitational Games, the favored Bronthron, Cunningham and Gene Venzki ran an epic one-mile encounter at Madison Square Gardens.
With over 25,000 watching, and thousands others turned away, Cunningham blitzed the competition by running lap times of 61.8, 64.0, 61.8, and 59.1 seconds, shattering the world record with a total time of 4.06.7, edging closer to the mythical four-minute mile.
Later that summer, Bronthron got a measure of revenge, adjusting to the stratagem and beating Cunningham in consecutive 1,500 meter races, the second in a world record time of his own, 3:48.8, while Glenn also beat the world mark with his 3:48.9 (a personal best).
Cunningham owned the major races in 1935, winning the AAU 1,500 meters championship in a time of 3:52.1; and taking the Wanamaker Mile in 4:11.0, with Venzke in second place and Bronthron in third.
After running relatively slow times at the 1936 U. S. Olympic trials, saving himself for the Olympic Games, Cunningham ran the best 1,500 meter time of his life...and once again lost a race while beating a world record.
He fell to Jack Lovelock of New Zealand in a new world record time of 3:47.8. Cunningham finished at 3:48.4 and said of Lovelock, “He must be the greatest runner ever,” according to Cordner Nelson and Roberto Quercetani in the book The Milers.
Cunningham finished his career with two NCAA titles, eight AAU championships, and a satchel of world records, one of which—his world one mile record of 4:06.8 in 1934—stood for three years.
He won 21 of 31 won indoor races at Madison Square Garden, despite enduring a tedious regimen of stretching and warm-ups that was far longer than any other runner’s, due to the lingering circulation problems in his legs, effects from the schoolhouse fire in 1916.
According to Nelson and Quercetani, Cunningham admired endurance, perhaps hearkening back to those bleak days of his childhood, spent dragging his almost-lifeless legs behind him as he navigated the picket fence in the back yard.
“If you stay in the running,” they quote him as saying, “if you have endurance, you are bound to win over those who haven’t.”
If all of that weren’t enough, Cunningham’s post-racing career might mark his most remarkable accomplishments.
Despite living his adult life through the worst economic depression in American history, Cunningham shrewdly invested his winnings as a prize runner, and parlayed them into not one, but two sprawling ranches.
One of them, now known as the Cunningham Chase County Ranch in south central Kansas (near Burns), he acquired in 1939, and was given to his first wife, Margaret S. Cunningham, as a part of their divorce settlement.
His daughter, Dr. Sandra Cunningham, retains 320 acres of the property to this day, and raises Egyptian Arabian thoroughbred horses there. Her father had rescued animals and used the 822 acre plot to rehab them and provide them with a quality of life second-to-none.
He earned a doctorate in physical education, and served as the physical education director at Cornell College from 1940-'44, before serving two years in the U. S. Navy.
He married his second wife, the former Ruth Sheffield, in the summer of 1947. They settled into the ranch that he had purchased in 1938 and retained for himself, an 840 acre tract of land near Cedar Point, Kansas.
The family—which eventually included two daughters by Margaret and the 10 children borne to Glenn by his second wife, Ruth—lived in the 12-room ranch house.
However, Glenn and Ruth eventually ran a home for troubled youth, though neither of them had any formal training in the field.
They had as many as 84 people—mostly children—living together at any given time.
The Cunninghams eventually helped upwards of 9,000 troubled and underprivileged youths at the Glenn Cunningham Youth Ranch. Their method was simple, according to Frank B. Bowles in the Biographical Dictionary of American Sports:
“With virtually no outside help, the couple handled the youngsters with old-fashioned patience and tolerance.”
Perhaps Cunningham is best summed up in the words of his favorite scripture, one which soothed him as he survived his harrowing brush with death, and one which he instilled in the many youths that he raised.
It is Isaiah chapter 40, verse 31:
“But those who wait on the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles, they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint.”
Indeed, Glenn V. Cunningham mounted up on wings like angels—or perhaps we should say the legs of a cheetah—and ran without getting weary. He was not as effortless, graceful, or smooth as other runners; he was just more determined.
He ran all the way into the hearts of a nation, and his story of courage and inspiration 
 I.N.J.

Friday, June 22, 2012

Control, Fear, and Faith


Sunday closest to June 22, Year B
Job 38:1-11; Psalm 107:1-3, 23-32; 
2 Corinthians 6:1-13; Mark 4:35-41
Rev. Fred D. Wilcoxson, PhD

Today’s readings are filled with wind; whirlwinds, stormy winds, a great windstorm, and the winds of fate. For those of us who have lived in Florida, wind can be very scary and very destructive. We experience wind in the form of tornados, hurricanes, and 60 mile per plus straight winds. These winds can come suddenly and for us in Central Florida from any direction and often changing directions. We also have cool winds that sooth us on a hot night and warm winds that blow the chilling cold air away in the winter months.

Jesus likened the Holy Spirit to the wind noting that we don’t know where it comes from or where it goes; yet we can feel the wind and see its power. This morning God spoke to Job out of a whirlwind, making it clear that He would ask the questions and Job would give Him the answers. In the short questioning by God we quickly get the gist of God’s conversation with Job. God is making it clear that He is without a doubt the one in charge. God made the rules that govern physical science; He is the one in control of everything, even the wind.

In all of our readings we are seeing the issues of control, fear, and faith.

While we can apply these issues to any situation we encounter, today I want you to think about a time when the wind made you afraid and or made you feel like no matter what you tried to do you are not fully in control of the outcome of the event.

In our Psalm we hear about a group of God’s people who decided to become fishermen and to ply their trade on the high seas.

I remember back in my police officer career when I worked the night shift. One day in particular I had come home and gone to bed right away. I got up around 3:00 PM to do a little fishing. It was a perfect day. I loaded up my 12 foot Jon boat, electric trolling motor, battery, and fishing equipment and off to Little Lake Barton I went. The boat dealership next to the FHP station on East Hwy 50 in Orlando had given me permission to put in from their dock and park my van in their lot while I fished.

I started off from the dock working my way along the grass line toward the Executive Air Port property. It was not long before the wind out of the northwest began to blow in a steady breeze, but the electric motor was holding me in a straight course. Suddenly, the wind began to blow in gusts and then it blew hard. It blew so hard that my little boat was being push farther and farther out into the middle of the lake. I was watching my van look smaller and smaller in the distance. I tried to tack the boat into the wind, but the motor just wasn’t strong enough to make any headway back to the dock. The wind picked up even more, enough to turn the bow and moving me farther away again. I put the motor on full throttle and starting rowing with the paddles to supplement the motor.  Even though I was young and fit at the time, the rowing didn’t take long to wear me out.  The water had become very rough and lapping over the sides into the boat. It was obvious that I was not going to be able to get the boat back to the dock. My only option was to let the wind push the boat all the way to the other side of the lake. I moved forward in the boat to keep the gunnels high at the stern and turned my fate over to the wind. Needless to say I was feeling very helpless and not in control and even fearful that this could have a bad ending.

As it turned out I ended up in the back yard of a house of a person I was acquainted with.  He let be beach and secure the boat there, but could not give me a ride back to my van. His wife had the car. It was a really long walk back to the van, especially since it had started to rain. Thus by the end of the afternoon I was very wet, very tired, caught no fish, but I had safely gotten to shore, retrieved the boat and all my equipment, getting home safe and sound.

In the Psalm the sailors cried out to the Lord in their trouble and He delivered them from their distress. I did call out to the Lord.  He didn’t still the storm to a whisper and quiet the waters… at least not until much later. He did bring me to a safe harbor. I too was thankful.

In Paul’s letter to the Corinthians it is not the wind that Jesus likened the Spirit to that He was speaking of… these were man made storms of afflictions, calamities, beatings, imprisonments, riots, labors, sleepless nights, and hunger. It was a time that no matter what the people of the Corinthian church tried, they  could not overcome, they could only endure. Still they were treated as imposters, even though they were true; as unknowns, yet well known; as dying, yet stayed alive; as punished, yet not killed; as sorrowful, yet always rejoicing; as poor, yet making many rich; as having nothing, yet possessing everything.

They cried out to the Lord and at an acceptable time God listened to them, and on a day of salvation the Lord helped them.

As in my own case on the lake, they were not in control and they were afraid and suffering. In the end for them, God provided salvation and relief; but like me they had a long walk to take before they realized the goal.

They story from Mark is one of my favorites. It is a story that I relate to on a daily bases and comes to my mind in every crisis I encounter. Let me remind you of the story:

On that day, when evening had come, he said to them, "Let us go across to the other side."  And leaving the crowd behind, they took him with them in the boat, just as he was. Other boats were with him.  A great windstorm arose, and the waves beat into the boat, so that the boat was already being swamped.  But he was in the stern, asleep on the cushion; and they woke him up and said to him, "Teacher, do you not care that we are perishing?"  He woke up and rebuked the wind, and said to the sea, "Peace! Be still!" Then the wind ceased, and there was a dead calm. He said to them, "Why are you afraid? Have you still no faith?"  And they were filled with great awe and said to one another, "Who then is this, that even the wind and the sea obey him?"

This is so much like my story; a simple boat ride, a windstorm, a loss of control, fear, and an appeal to the Lord. The Lord answered their call for help. He woke up and rebuked the wind, and said to the sea “Peace! Be still!” The wind ceased and there was dead calm.

This time there was a question from Our Lord Jesus, a question that He asks us every time we are out of control and afraid. He asks the disciples “Why are you afraid? Have you still no faith?”

It is faith that melts away the need for control and fear. Faith is the key element in Christian living. Faith is the road to peace and joy. Faith builds relationships. Faith builds buildings and homes, and lives. Falling back into Gods loving caring arms in the faith that He is always there to catch you helps you sleep, keep your blood pressure down, make it through troubled times, helps you understand life, and gives you joy. It can also be handy when people ask you that tough question, “How can you be so calm at a time like this.” Or in my case, “How is the ordination process going?” My answer is simply: “If Jesus is asleep in the back of the boat, I will make it to the other side.” It is faith in trusting Jesus to take me to the other side whether or not it is the side of my desires or a side that he chooses to carry me safely to, that I am in His hands.

That’s my lesson in faith for you. God loves you and is always right there with you. He comes to every crisis that you may have, whether you invited Him or not. I hope that you will have faith and allow the Lord to calm your storms.  Amen.
I.N.J.

Thursday, June 21, 2012

All we Need is Love


“I will not mince words when I name two of the great forces against which we must contend, greed and fear. They have stalked the dark forests of our souls for longer than we have memory. They are primal, persistent, powerful, ever seeking to subvert the will of God. They exist in every human culture and from them none of us is immune. But if we name them, if we turn the clear light of truth on them, they shrink in size and wither before the justice of heaven. We need to turn that light on now. We need to be light-keepers through the storm to come. ~Steven Charleston


In this busy and turbulent lifestyle that we have adopted into our culture, I find very little time to simply be with my children and grandchildren. It seems that just about every time we are together it is for an occasion. That means that we are not really together in an intimate sense but a part of a gathering. I find that we communicate by phone (voice and text), email, or through passed on information.

Yesterday was a rare happening. I was flying into Orlando-Sanford Airport returning from Chattanooga, TN. It turned out to be a stormy afternoon, delaying the flight for about an hour. My son-in-law had volunteered to pick me up and drive me home to Clermont. This meant that we had about an hour of one on one time. We had three primary areas of conversation, NASCAR and Dale Earnhardt Jr’s win on Sunday, the family, mostly the kids, and politics.

We are in complete agreement that Jr. has broken his long streak without a win and is on a path to winning this year’s championship. When we discussed the family the topics of the economy making things tight came up along with how my daughter was dealing with four kids off for the summer while doing her work-from-home job and taking on-line classes from UCF. The bottom line there was they are a typical family with all the normal problems, yet very blessed.

When it comes to politics we are somewhat at odds. As you must realize, total agreement is difficult if not impossible to achieve in this arena. What we were able to agree on was that character, morality, honesty, justice, and mercy are very important from either side. We also were together on the fact that greed and fear were unwanted forces that seem to be driving the passion from both sides. It seemed that it was all about winning and losing, money, and control. The issues seem not to be on the people and their struggles, needs, and safety.

The ride home was to me a really great hour with a person I love and care about. It was a time that cemented the realization that the greatest action we can take or use in our daily living is being there for each other.  We decided that loving and being loved was the crux of all our valued relationships; family, friends, and relationships. When we do this the greed and fear melt away.

The quote from Bishop Charleston and the American Indian saying were two things that jumped out at me this morning when I checked e-mail and Facebook. They prompted me to theme today’s Quote of the Week. I give this to you to do with as you may, praying that it may encourage you in some way.

I.N.J.

Thursday, June 14, 2012

Morning Prayer









“When you arise in the morning, give thanks for the morning light, for your life and strength. Give thanks for your food, and the joy of living. If you see no reason for giving thanks, the fault lies with yourself.” - Tecumseh

  



Monday, June 11, 2012

A Funeral Song


Day is done, gone the sun,
From the hills, from the lake,
From the sky.
All is well, safely rest,
God is nigh.
Go to sleep, peaceful sleep,
May the soldier or sailor,
God keep.
On the land or the deep,
Safe in sleep.
Love, good night, Must thou go,
When the day, And the night
Need thee so?
All is well. Speedeth all
To their rest.
Fades the light; And afar
Goeth day, And the stars
Shineth bright,
Fare thee well; Day has gone,
Night is on.
Thanks and praise, For our days,
'Neath the sun, Neath the stars,
'Neath the sky,
As we go, This we know,
God is nigh.

Although you have heard the notes to this beautiful song, most people have ever heard the words sung. The song is Taps, played at bedtime to all of our military personnel throughout the world. Officially know as Extinguish Lights (Lights Out); familiar to most of us as a song played at military and first responder funerals. I don’t think the origin of the song has ever been absolutely established. Here is the link to the West Point site where a thorough explanation is offered:
I am going to offer you version of the story that has likely been fictionalizes, to an extent, to give it that heart touching appeal. It has to do with a Civil War Union Army Captain Robert Elli.  All or parts of this story may not be true. It is a story that may require a tissue.
We in the United States have all heard the haunting song Taps. It’s the song that gives us the lump in our throats and usually tears in our eye. But, do you know the story behind the song? If not, I think you will be interest to find out about its humble beginnings.
Reportedly, it all began in 1862 during the Civil War, when Union Army Captain Robert Elli was with his men near Harrison’s Landing in Virginia.  The Confederate Army was on the other side of the narrow strip of land.
During the night, Captain Elli heard the moans of a soldier who lay severely wounded on the field.  Not knowing if it was a Union or Confederate soldier, the Captain decided to risk his life and bring the stricken man back for medical attention.  Crawling on his stomach through the gunfire, the Captain reached the stricken soldier and began pulling him toward his encampment. When the Captain finally reached his own lines, he discovered it was actually a Confederate soldier, but the soldier was dead.
The Captain lit a lantern and suddenly caught his breath and went numb with shock.  In the dim light, he saw the face of the soldier.  It was his own son. The boy had been studying music in the South when the war broke out. Without telling his father, the boy enlisted in the Confederate Army.
The following morning, heartbroken, the father asked permission of his superiors to give his son a full military burial, despite his enemy status.  His request was only partially granted.  The Captain had asked if could have a group of the Army band members play a funeral dirge for his son at the funeral.  The request was turned down since the soldier was a Confederate. But, out of respect for the father, they  say they could give him only one musician.
The Captain chose a bugler.  He asked the bugler to play a series of musical notes he had found on a piece paper  in the dead youth’s uniform.
This wish was granted.  The haunting melody, we now know as Taps used at military funerals was born.
~Author Unknown
Keep watch, dear Lord, with those who work, or watch, or 
weep this night, and give your angels charge over those who 
sleep. Tend the sick, Lord Christ; give rest to the weary, bless 
the dying, soothe the suffering, pity the afflicted, shield the 
joyous; and all for your love's sake. Amen.  2nd Prayer for missions BCP Evening Prayer Rite II page 124



Friday, June 8, 2012

Resurrect Communications within the Church


“I was recently in a church service where the message of the sermon was about the intergenerational representation of congregations, and one of the points was that previous generations need to realize that younger generations can’t be told stories the same way the previous generations were told them. The language has changed. The environment…the substrate upon which we now build has changed. Because of this, the pastor added that previous generations needed to be willing to listen to the stories and voices of the younger generations as well.

Now at some point in the midst of this great message the children in the Sunday school class had been taken outside to play in the grass with some balloons, and you could hear their laughing and shrieks of joy and surprise outside the windows of the sanctuary.  What an appropriate backdrop for such a message!

And then it happened.

An older gentleman in the congregation stood up, walked clear down the side aisle, opened the door to the church yard and told the children that they needed to quiet down because a service was taking place inside.

And in that moment something in me broke. Some dark, black, gloomy hole within my being dropped into endless freefall. During a message about generations needing to be willing to listen to one another, some guy actually got up and told the younger members of the church to shut up.

Any hope I had for change died in that pew. Any hope I had for conversation, for renewal, for cross-generational interaction choked to death center-aisle on the cranberry-colored carpet runner and to the sound of the words: “You kids need to quiet down.””

What you have just read is a quote from a June 5, 2012 post on the Blog site Scriptorium http://grunewaldguild.com/blog/?p=1757. This is the first time I have been to the site. I was moved to visit there through a Facebook post by the Diocese of Eastern Tennessee. Their post coincides with the upcoming national convention of the Episcopal Church, where among other issues the diminishing census of our churches will be discussed.

I would like to touch on just one point the writer of the blog alluded to.  We are in fact in a time that most of the information that we take in and put out is via some electronic medium. Most of this information is only moderately relative to the moment and even less relevant to our general ability to live in and cope with our world. Church has become a thing that we do, rather than a part of the essence of our being. It is those of us in the clergy who post or tweet about things religious, not our congregants or the public in general, with the exception of feel good platitudes and sayings or quotes of the day/week that contain a Bible verse. It seems most of the time that we know a great deal about each others daily routine and know almost nothing about the faith, needs, wants, emotions, and impactful experiences of one another. We have forgotten how to communicate.

“…one of the points was that previous generations need to realize that younger generations can’t be told stories the same way the previous generations were told them.”

The generations of story telling and storytellers have faded away. I can remember when I was young; I could spend hours listening to my grand parents, older relatives and neighbors, and even my parents telling exciting and interesting stories of how things were in the past. There are two reasons that this type of communication is nearly gone. We have run out of storytellers in the older generation, it has become a lost art and we have no listeners in the younger generation. Today’s young (I consider anyone between 2 and 60 young) don’t have time or are too distracted to sit and listen.

“Any hope I had for change died in that pew. Any hope I had for conversation, for renewal, for cross-generational interaction choked to death center-aisle on the cranberry-colored carpet runner and to the sound of the words: “You kids need to quiet down.””

I guess that I am just old enough to look at the dilemma being presented as an opportunity rather than the death announcement of inter-generational communication. I believe that we can resurrect (an interesting term in a religious conversation) the art of communication in the church, to the end that we are not running the younger generations away.

The chance lies in whether or not we, the Church, are willing to make a very deliberate effort to create an environment conducive to effective communication. This deliberate effort has to be designed to place the three or four generations of congregants in contact with one another on a regular basis.  We must develop storytellers willing to sit or stand before others and relate their stories. We must involve the older folks in situations were they can observe and listen to the younger members of the church. This could begin with developing young storytellers who can do presentations during adult functions. You can take this model and mold it and shape into hundreds of different applications and programs. All of this must be framed in love, God’s abiding love, bathed in prayer, monitored with patience, promoted and supported by the Rector (Pastor). There is not a short term fix. It will be a longer, even lifetime, effort; it will be a change in the lifestyle of the church.

The author of the blog says of himself and his peers: “Because this is a generation of self-starters and micro-entrepreneurship. They have no problem whatsoever starting up their own things. And they have been. And they are. And they will continue to do so.” A key place to begin a process may very well be within this very group of people. A focused effort must be made toward this demographic to recruit their self-startedness, micro-entrepreneurship, and energy to be a driving and integral force in the mechanism of transition back to communications.

This is a good blog post, relevant to what is currently going in the church in general and across denominational lines. I encourage you to read the entire article, highlighting every thing that you see happening in your church.  Then I ask that you go back and make a list of things you can do to begin the process. When you do begin, start a blog or find an existing blog to post your ideas and programs. Let each other know what works for you and doesn’t work. Learn from one another, have seminars, and present homilies that support this new way of doing an old thing… talking to each other.  Blessings.
 I.N.J.

Guide to Pastoral Care - the short version


“It is the power of the Spirit.  When Jesus appeared people wanted to be close to him and touch him because "power came out of him" (Luke 6:19). It is this power of the divine Spirit that Jesus wants to give us.  The Spirit indeed empowers us and allows us to be healing presences.  When we are filled with that Spirit, we cannot be other than healers.”
~Henri Nouwen

In chaplaincy and all forms of pastoral care the most power filled action we can take is the ministry of presence. In the midst of chaos, pain, suffering, loss, illness, or other adversity there is little if anything that we as humans can do to change what was or is happening. There is certainly nothing that we can say that will help during this initial time of shock and realization. What helps most is simply being there. Our presence is more important than anything else we can do. You will find that those in need want to touch you, hug you, hold your hand, or have your arm around them. They can feel a power in your presence and touch. It is the power of the Spirit that they are feeling, through you. It is that divine Spirit that Jesus has given us in order to give it those who need it most. The Spirit empowers us, all of us, and allows us to be healing presences. You see, when we are filled with the Spirit of Jesus, we cannot be other than healers. When I teach pastoral care giving I make a statement that is contrary to everything we were likely taught when we were young. People told us “Don’t just stand there, say something.” What I tell you is “Don’t say anything, just stand there.”

After a short time, a second action of ministry is appropriate. This is a ministry of mercy. A cold drink of water can be very soothing. It relieves that parched dryness of the mouth, gives a small thing to do with the hands, and helps to bring them back into a cognitive state. Remember that Jesus cried at the grave of Lazarus. There is no higher permission to show emotion that this act of Jesus. Because he was a man, He felt the emotional and psychological suffering of grief. You may offer the hurting permission to cry. I recommend having tissues handy. There is an American Indian saying that goes: “If it wasn’t for tears the Soul would have no rainbows.” Tears are very therapeutic, an outward sign of all that emotion and stress that are in pent up inside. There is a release of hormones into the system that brings a kind of peace or euphoria that aids in coping. Don’t be surprised as crying sometimes leads to laughing.

You may tell the grieving that all of those feelings they are having are quite natural. They are the natural reaction to an abnormal situation or event. It is not usual that people have feelings of anger toward God for allowing this event to occur. This happens in the most faithful believers. In my experience, the last thing people want to hear at this very vulnerable time is unsolicited Bible verses or religious sounding platitudes like ‘God needed another angel in His choir” or “your loved one has gone to a better place.” I recommend that a Bible be handy in case someone has a favorite verse that reassures them in times of crisis. I never just pull out the Bible and begin reading. I only read Scriptures to the mourning during that first few hours if they request it.

Prayer is the only thing that I give equal power to next to presence. I begin my personal silent prayers before ever encountering the patient or family. I continue those prayers throughout our time together. A part of my prayer is that the Holy Spirit guides me through this time. I listen for the Spirit and I listen to those I am ministering to. I seldom if ever tell people ‘let’s pray.’  I either ask if they would like for me to pray with them or wait for them to ask me to pray with them. I believe that it is important to allow the grieving to actively take part in the prayers. The widest know prayer is the Lord’s Prayer. I often ask them to join me in saying that prayer. I then structure my prayers calling the patient or victim by their name and acknowledging that God loves that person and those present. I always keep the prayer positive and upbeat. I always acknowledge the grief of those present and ask God to walk through this difficult time with them.

The Right Reverend Steven Charleston, Retired Episcopal Bishop has written many wisdoms regarding prayer. I will share two: “The agent of healing is prayer. We are each physicians of prayer, sworn to practice its art for any who need a blessing. Let us be about our task, Spirit guided and Spirit filled, transforming one another, healing the healers, healing a waiting world.” And “I touched the light of heaven, just the other day, standing in a hospital room, praying protection for a man about to step into an unknown. It was the strangest feeling. As the prayer was spoken the words turned to streams of light, weaving like a ribbon around the patient, until he was radiant in the glow of God's love. That light-filled prayer remains even now, in these quiet morning shadows. I speak those words with you in mind, a prayer for your safekeeping. Don't be surprised if when you catch a glimpse in a mirror you imagine you see a halo.”

When we go into a pastoral care ministry whether it is in Wal-Mart, a home, a hospital setting, or as an intercessor in a church, go armed with the presence of the Holy Spirit, filled with the Holy Spirit, and guided by the Holy Spirit.

My prayer for you is that you may experience the power of God’s love in your ministry and that you are witness to His many miracles. Blessings to you on your journey with the Holy Spirit.  

I.N.J.


Monday, June 4, 2012

My Big Toe, Continued


Let me unfurl my sails and make for the open sea. I am not afraid to see the far horizon as my only course. I do not need the crowded land to be my only harbor. I will let the wind chase me over the waves, skimming beneath the cloudless sky, steering through the night by the stars I choose to follow. I will trust my self to be this free for I know that God accepts me just as I am, empowers me as I am made, and will share my joy as I dare to go as far as I can before I reach that distant shore where the light of an endless love will bring me safely home. ~Steven Charleston

My Big Toe
Continued


If you have seen me, read my blog post ‘My Big Toe,’ or seen any of my Facebook posts you know that a little over two weeks ago I had surgery on my right big toe. After years of abuse, the cartilage wore out and arthritis set in. Lately it had become a constant source of pain and discomfort.  This was complicated by the fact that I can not take NSAIDs, anti-inflammatory pain relievers. The time had come to have the bones in the toe fused. The dread of surgery was ominous. Dr. Torres described the surgery using words like, scrape, roughen, plate, screws, and twelve week recovery period. Yet he never said those words in a negative way. He always looked ahead to the net result of what ever was to come.

The surgery went very well, just a little longer than expected. Dr. T found a real mess when he ‘got in there.’ This is not a bit unusual for me and medical procedures. I have found that there is a price to pay for abusing one’s body when you are young. Week one of recovery was a day and a half of ‘pain’ pills and the rest keeping the foot elevated 99% of the time (boring). The second week I got the reprieve. I was allowed to go back to the office for four days (not five) for a maximum of four hours a day, with the promise that I would elevate the foot when not perambulating. During this time I was wearing a very fashionable open toed bootie and sporting a cane for both balance and minimizing the potential for weight bearing. Now this week I am allowed to be at work for the full day… still with the bootie and cane.

When I returned to worked, I immediately encountered large numbers of people who wanted to know ‘what happened.’ They were also very curious about the two small feathers secured by a leather thong on the shaft of my cane. Why would they find two small feathers unusual on a chaplain’s cane?.. especially a chaplain who was born and grew up in Oklahoma, on American Indian land. So just for those who may sense a conflict between the Christian beliefs and American Indian Spirituality and beliefs I give this apologetic.

There are many symbols used in the various Christian traditions and other religions of the world to remind their followers of important aspects of their faith or special occasions in their traditions. As a matter of fact, there are thousands of symbols used to give others information about many things. One most frequently seen in my work place is the caduceus, the traditional symbol of medical practitioners.

For me like most Native Americans the feather is a symbol of the wind. The wind is frequently associated with the presence of the Holy (or Great) Spirit. For me the two feathers on my cane is a reminder that no matter where I go or what I am going through that I am never alone. I know that God is with me, that His Spirit is there to give me comfort and support, help me make decisions, relieve my pain (physical and other), and to direct my walk to those who are also in need. I am like everyone else, distracted by the times. My feathers securely anchor me to those things that I need to focus on.

Still skeptical? Let me take you a verse from the Apostle John as our Lord speaks to one who is skeptical:

The wind blows wherever it pleases. You hear its sound, but you cannot tell where it comes from or where it is going. So it is with everyone born of the Spirit."
John 3:8 (NIV)
I.N.J.